I’m excited to have my first article featured on Scary Mommy today!
I’ve long been a fan of Scary Mommy for their blunt honesty and irreverent humor. Sometimes you just want someone to tell it like it is – and their writers don’t disappoint!
My article is a response to a question that I have been receiving for close to 12 years as a married woman:
Why didn’t you take your husband’s last name?
I’m hoping that the piece, 9 Reasons I Didn’t Take My Husband’s Last Name, clears up the confusion once and for all.
Check it out and let me know your thoughts on the topic!
Congrats on getting featured on Scary Mommy! That’s a great site!
Thank you, Aileen!!
Way to go Faye! So happy for you! Off to read it now 🙂
Thank you so much!!
SOOOOOO exciting!!
Thanks Shannon!!
I took back my birth name. My personal feelings is that it is archaic to take another name. Although birth names are our fathers’. ….
I agree. Also about our fathers but with that we have no choice – with our married names we do.
My husband and I have been separated for seven years and I’ve still kept his – and now that i’ve been writing under it for two years, I will likely keep it after I remarry other than socially.
That makes sense. Definitely compelling reasons to keep it!
I’m so with you on this! It’s EXACTLY how I feel!
Thank you!!
Congrats on the feature! I think most people don’t stop to think how much a name change affects our personal finances, our careers and so many other things! I always hated my married name and gladly went back to my married name. Life is much simpler that way!
I had (and still have) such a hard time with my “new” name. I feel like I lost a part of my past, and that I was the only one doing the compromising or the changing. I know I wont go back to my maiden name – but I sure do miss it.
Congratulations on being featured on Scary Mommy! That’s so exciting! I enjoyed your post! While I chose to take my husband’s last name when we get married, I’ve never thought negatively about someone who chooses to keep her maiden name. I don’t really see why some people get so fired up about it! I also love that you had well thought-out, logical reasons to explain your decision. I think your reasoning would convince anyone who is against keeping your maiden name to at least consider the alternative!
Thank you, Brittany! I definitely respect all thoughts on the topic but wish there wasn’t so much judgment towards those who choose a less traditional route.
We all have our reasons for things that we do. I feel great about taking my husband’s last name because I don’t see it as an “ownership” type thing. I still have my own identity, it wasn’t that much of a hassle to have it changed. Even now, my kids and I have a different last name, no big deal to me. Their friends, sometimes, call me by their last name. Again, no big deal, I just correct them. To me, it’s about loving and respecting my husband and being confident in myself that I am still me even with a different last name other than what I was born with. Now, I am not saying that a woman who keeps her maiden name doesn’t love and respect her husband. We all do different things, can’t imagine us all being the same.
Well said, Tiffany. It’s all about respecting each other’s choices. I am surprised that in this day and age I receive so much grief about keeping my maiden name – I hope that starts to diminish over time as it becomes more common. And I completely understand why others make different choices – and that’s great too! It’s all about what works for the individual and family in question.
I had to tweet this. I am still so surprised so few women retain their birth names.
Me too, frankly. I see the argument for keeping it or for taking on a husband’s name; however it is the judgment I feel I still receive (after close to 12 years of marriage!) for keeping my own name that bothers me. Very surprising in this day and age.
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Me parece muy lograda tu opinión sobre este tema. Desde hace cierto tiempo me encuentro muy
motivado con esto e intento buscar toda la información que puedo sobre este tema.
La intervención que has confeccionado me ha semejado muy provechosa,
sin embargo creo que se podría estudiar un tanto más y de este modo poder explicar diferentes dudas que aún poseo.
De todas maneras, muchas gracias por tu aportación. Estaré atento a cercanas manifestaciones que elabores.
Mil gracias.
Un saludo.
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