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10 More Things I’ve Learned About Breastfeeding – At 6 Months Postpartum

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If you’ve already read my earlier post, 9 Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me About Breastfeeding, you know that breastfeeding has not come easily for me. Written about eight weeks after the birth of my third child, the post shares a bit about the challenges I’ve had – and my ultimate success in finally being able to (almost) exclusively breastfeed lucky baby #3.

The post also talks about many of the truths of breastfeeding that I wish I had known going in. The amazing aspects as well as the ones that – well – suck (no pun intended). I feel that had I known better what to expect, I would have been better equipped to handle various challenges as they arose – and perhaps had been more successful with my first two babies.

It appears that 9 Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me About Breastfeeding has resonated with readers as well. To date, it has been one of my highest-performing posts, prompting more emails and reach-outs than I can count (which I love – we’re all in this together)! This tells me that I’m not alone in this experience, and that many new mothers have gone through the trial and error that I have while trying to navigate a new nursing relationship.

So, at six months postpartum, I thought it would be a good time to post an update about how my breastfeeding journey has evolved.

I AM PROUD!

There. I said it. And I’m not ashamed! I have worked very hard to hit this milestone, and I’m delighted with the progress that my baby and I have made. I read this week that only 18% of mothers who start out breastfeeding are still nursing at 6 months, so I feel I’ve really achieved something (never mind that the statistic was on a Facebook meme – take it for what it’s worth, but it sounded great to me)!

My husband asked me yesterday how long I was going to continue breastfeeding. I answered that, at this point, as long as possible since the hard work is already done! Or at least the one year I had originally set my sights on. Which brings me to my next point.

It really DOES get easier.

Hear me when I say this – as I never believed anyone who said this until I experienced it for myself. It won’t always be as hard as it is in the beginning. Not even close.

Now, don’t get me wrong. It remains a big (huge) commitment. Every day breastfeeding is one of my biggest considerations as I time outings and events around feeds. As I struggle with various aspects that I will detail later on. BUT it is easier than it once was. It has become habit, second nature, and I have gotten used to it. It has simply become a part of my life.

It no longer hurts – as much.

In my first post, I talked a lot about the pain of nursing. Because the pain at that point was SIGNIFICANT. The “tender nipples” crap that I hear time and time again is complete B.S. – at least for me. For me, it was a searing, burning, excruciating pain. And yes, I felt this pain even though the latch was absolutely correct.

So I’m happy to report that the pain – at least to that level – started subsiding for me around 12 weeks. Granted, this is much longer than the 3-8 weeks I was originally led to believe, but the good news is that it DID subside. Now when the baby latches, I feel an initial prick/tingle and that is it.

Lest I lead you to believe that it has become completely pain-free, it has not. My little guy now has more of a say in things and will often bite (even without teeth, this hurts), tug, or my personal favorite – bite and tug on the nipple simultaneously to pull off. The good news is that if I’m paying attention, I can often tell when he’s in this sort of mood, or can read his cues to pull him off before he decides to do it himself. The bad news is if I’m watching TV or browsing Facebook on my phone, I will sometimes miss the cues and end up with a sore nipple.

Some babies hate covers.

I know that I can technically nurse pretty much wherever and whenever I want sans cover. It’s my right. That said, I still (shockingly) retain a shred of modesty since birthing three children, and I personally prefer using a cover.

My baby disagrees.

He hates the cover. Despises it. And refuses to eat (and instead cries and screams) when I place one on. I’ve tried everything – all different types of covers, putting them on in different ways so that he won’t notice, and even trying to cover him with other items like shirts, soft blankets, etc. Nothing works. He’s hip to the game and isn’t having any of it.

Which puts me in a dilemma. Since I’m shy to nurse publicly without cover, I have to find a private area or feed him a bottle. Neither is ideal. Finding a private area means leaving whatever I’m doing at the moment (often leaving people to wait for us), while feeding him a bottle leaves me still needing to express so essentially doubling the time of the feed.

I have yet to find a solution, so opt to switch between finding a private area or bottle feeding when in public. And it blows.

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Distractions are the bane of my existence.

Like I mentioned earlier, my little man has become much more engaged with the world, no longer content to simply sleep and feed. Which is great. Except when I’m nursing. EVERYTHING is a distraction. His brothers. The TV. The radio. The sound of the garbage truck driving by. And with every distraction, he pulls of, smiles, and turns towards it.

It can turn a 20-minute feed into an hour.

I’ve tried quiet rooms. That worked – until his brothers figured out that these were the perfect times to get into everything they shouldn’t. So no more quiet rooms for us.

So now we simply try to work with it. I admit that I turn on the TV for his brothers to minimize distractions, but they still occur. Fortunately, the baby does have his good times. He eats much better during the evening, less so throughout the day. So I try to maximize the evening feeds understanding that I have to take what I can get. And it seems to go in phases – around four months was really difficult as everything seemed to pull him away from the task at hand, while now at six months it seems to be improving.

Little hands are curious.

As much as outside sights and sounds distract my baby, his own hands do as well. He reaches for everything. Like my hair, which he grasps and yanks and will not let go of. Or my chin, which he scratches and scrapes with tiny baby fingernails. Or even my jaw, which he grips onto and tugs while feeding away.

It’s not comfortable for me and as much as I love my baby, I don’t love having to extract my pulled-out hair from clenched baby hands.

So I’ve learned to prevent it by keeping his hands busy during feeds. Offering him fingers or small toys to grasp onto. Wearing tug-resistant shirts that won’t untie or unravel when pulled. And tying my hair back into ponytails – lots and lots of ponytails – to keep it safe from curious hands.

I still pump.

And I still hate it. Fortunately, I will now go many days with only a single electric pumping session each morning after waking up engorged.

For other times throughout the day, if I’m out and about, I’ve discovered the wonder of the manual hand pump.

Hear me out. I, too, was appalled by the notion of manually pumping my own breasts. I held off until my third baby was 4.5 months old before finally purchasing one out of necessity (and to use up an expiring gift card) – because I didn’t want to lug my big double electric pump on an all-day outing.

And I freaking LOVE it!

I bought the Medela Harmony because my electric pump is also Medela (hooray for interchangeable bottles and parts)! And I now carry it everywhere. It is awesome:

It’s SMALL. Which means I can discretely carry it in my purse for whenever I need it.
It is INCREDIBLY efficient. In fact, I pump more milk manually using the hand pump than I get via the electric pump. It’s probably because I am consciously controlling the speed and action versus simply vegging out on the couch – but to this day I am amazed at how much milk I get in a much faster session.
Fewer parts to clean. Just one bottle, one breast shield, and one membrane kit. Hallelujah!
Easy to clean on the go. I am in love with the Medela Quick Clean Wipes – no soap or water needed!
It is QUIET. I can do it without anyone hearing it – unlike my electric pump which often prompts questions on phone calls: “what is that whooshing noise in the background??”
Fewer supplies needed. No tubes, no hands-free pumping bra, no electrical outlet nor cords. Just the pump and my breast is all I need. And a cover to use it in public.

So, yes, I still pump BUT am enjoying much more flexibility in how I pump.

Babies don’t nurse as often as newborns.

This was a welcome revelation seeing as I spent close to entire days in bed nursing my newborn. Now he can go much longer without nursing, and the feeds are more efficient. We’ve gotten into a groove.

The best thing about this is now being able to schedule my day. I know roughly when the baby will need to eat, and can schedule departures/arrivals around those times. I know that when he eats, he will eat well (as long as he’s not overly distracted), and then be satiated for a longer period of time. And I know that since we both have a handle on what we’re doing, we can pop in a quick 10-minute feed if need be to hold him over. It’s gotten much easier all around.

Introducing solids reduces the reliance on breast milk alone.

Most 6-month-olds are on solids and I, too, started my baby on solids at the six month mark. It’s still new for us, but already I am noticing his breast milk needs beginning to level out with the introduction of solid food.

Which makes my nursing job a bit easier and less time-consuming as I begin to focus more on other forms of nutrition and sustenance. And bittersweet as I reflect on how his dependence on me will continue to lessen as time goes on.

It is a gift.

The gratification of nursing my baby has not changed since he was a newborn. I feel so grateful and satisfied to be continuing this journey with him as he matures. There are now thousands of moments catalogued deep into the recesses of my memory – of him falling asleep on the breast, cooing after a feed, smiling in gratitude, giggling, or simply looking up at me as he eats while grasping my finger.

Even at 2am, when I am exhausted and want to cry myself when he is again crying to eat, I can’t help but be thankful for those precious moments once he’s latched on, dozing, and content. They really are a gift.

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And this is why I’m in it for the long haul. The end is nearing, faster than I’d like, and I want to soak up these final moments before they’re gone. This special time shared by only my baby and I. Because sooner than I know it, this will be the time I miss.

9 Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me About Breastfeeding

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Breast is best.

The message is ingrained into our collective consciousness. It is the best, healthiest, and most acceptable way to feed your child. It provides the highest opportunity for increased immunity, protection against illness, and gastrointestinal health. Studies draw correlations between breastfeeding and higher IQs, decreased rates of obesity, and so on and so forth.

So we all should do it, right?

If only it were that easy.

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I’m now on my third child, and this is exactly the first time I have ever been able to exclusively breastfeed.

With my first, a combination of physical factors and my delay in taking any action prevented breastfeeding altogether. So my child was almost exclusively formula fed – much to the disgust of online nursing board trolls who attacked and belittled other mothers for formula feeding (another topic I will discuss in another post). For the record, my first child is now a perfectly healthy, intelligent, and fit preschooler.

With my second, I tried very hard to breastfeed. But after many weeks and more lactation consultants, breast pumps, and tears than I can count, I finally resorted to exclusive pumping. I exclusively pumped as much as I could produce (about 75-80% of my child’s intake) for just over 10 months. I don’t wish that on anyone. My goal had been to hit a year but, as anyone who has exclusively pumped can attest, it is a lot of work and frankly – I was over it. My second child is much like my first: healthy, intelligent, and physically fit.

But with my third, I was determined to breastfeed. I didn’t want to exclusively pump, and I wanted to know that my body could actually do what it was meant to do. This time I prepared extensively. I read books, watched YouTube videos, and talked to lactation consultants. I purchased everything I thought I would need. (And also purchased some formula too – just in case).

And by golly – now at eight weeks postpartum – I think we’ve finally got it!

But it’s not at all what I expected. There are parts that are much better and, truthfully, parts that are worse. I love and am so proud that my son and I have figured it out. We are in it for the long haul. But there are definitely things I wish I knew going in that would have helped me to better prepare. (If you are further along in your breastfeeding journey, check out my new post, 10 More Things I’ve Learned About Breastfeeding At 6 Months Postpartum).

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It HURTS

And I don’t mean the “tender nipples” that all the breastfeeding books and lactation consulting boards gloss over. I mean it hurts like hell!

Especially in the beginning weeks, it feels like hundreds of tiny knives stabbing and cutting off your nipples every time you feed. Teeth clenching, wincing, toe curling pain.

Now imagine that these extremely sensitive and hurting nipples are required to feed again every 1-2 hours. The pain compounds. And makes you dread feedings. Add to this the fact that you’re still recovering from the birth experience, and that your hormones are all over the place, and it’s a recipe for disaster – or at least to give up and switch to formula.

Now, after the first few weeks the pain does begin to subside during the feed, but the initial pain remains – for about 20-30 seconds after latch. I suspect now that the initial pain will always be there, even if it does continue to decrease.

What is most frustrating about all of this is that if you dare speak of any pain, you will be immediately shunned. Breastfeeding shouldn’t hurt, they’ll say. If it hurts then you’re doing something wrong, they’ll proclaim. Yet by the time the third lactation consultant is checking your latch and confirming that the baby is latching on properly (and that there are no tongue tie or other related issues), you will begin to suspect that the pain is just a normal part of nursing.

My advice is to avoid online breastfeeding forums. All the talk about it not hurting will simply make you feel like you are in fact doing something wrong and that you will never get it right. Lucky mothers who apparently don’t experience any pain will make you feel even worse.

So what works to help relieve the pain? Of all the gel packs, soothing pads, and other products on the market, I’ve only found two that provided me any real relief:

Medela SoftShells: These saved me the first few weeks. When your nipples are that sore, you don’t want anything touching them between feeds. Not even shirts or nursing bras. Air is the best way to heal, along with some expressed breast milk on and around the nipples, but it simply isn’t practical to walk around topless all day. These bad boys fit comfortably over your nipples and provide protection from any contact while allowing air in to help with the healing process. They are well hidden under shirts and are easy to clean. A definite must have if you experience any soreness like me.
Medela Contact Nipple Shield: This is a thin shield that is placed over the nipple before breastfeeding. It allows the baby to nurse from the breast while minimizing pain for you. They are not intended to act as a long term solution (and many lactation consultants will advise you not to use them for fear that there will be difficulties weaning from them), but if it is a choice between that and forgoing breastfeeding altogether, I say go with the nipple shields. They don’t completely eliminate all pain, but make it much more manageable. I’ve used these many times and have had no issues going back and forth between the shield and my nipple. A close friend of mine used nipple shields exclusively for three months, and had little issue weaning her baby directly onto the breast afterwards.

It hurts even when you’re not feeding

Sad, but true. Think that breast engorgement is a one time thing when your milk comes in? Think again. Any time you go longer than a few hours without either nursing or pumping, that hard pain of engorgement will come searing right back.

My nipples never get fully desensitized, which means that for however long I pump or breastfeed, my nipples are sore. That’s over ten months with my second child. They hurt in the shower (heaven forbid a stream of water hits them), if I put on a bra too quickly, or even if my breasts are not fully emptied. It just is what it is, and I’ve had to learn to accept it.

Not all Lactation Consultants are created equal

Once you give birth, a lactation consultant will be assigned to you in the hospital to help you through the initial days of breastfeeding. If you run into any challenges once you return home, you will undoubtedly seek the services of additional lactation consultants. There is no shortage of lactation consultants available, but they are NOT all the same.

I have had the opportunity to see many lactation consultants after the births of all three of my sons. Some helped. Others did not. Some had a great bedside manner. Others did not. Just like with any other service.

First, you want to ensure that any lactation consultant you see is certified as an IBCLC (International Board Certified Lactation Consultant). I’ve noticed that many IBCLC certified lactation consultants are also certified in other services, or are RNs (Registered Nurses). Look for any combination of certification and skills that you may be interested in.

Consider if you’re interested in 1:1 consultations or a group setting. I personally prefer 1:1 consultations, but have had some luck with group settings/classes as well. I think if you are really struggling and considering quitting, a personal consultation is the most effective.

Talk to other mothers in your area. Ask for referrals. Tap your doctors and doulas. Consider contacting your local chapter of La Leche League if you need additional help. Don’t forget to contact your insurance company, as many do now provide coverage for lactation consulting services. My carrier, for example, allows for six in-network consultations free of charge, and additional at a deeply discounted rate.

Once you meet with the lactation consultant, ask questions. Share your concerns. And listen to not only what they say, but how they say it. I can think of two lactation consultants I’ve been to who were very good at what they do, but who had a horrible bedside manner. One berated me for supplementing with any formula, and the other was hurried, impatient, and dismissive. Not a great combination for an already frustrated mom looking for help.

Find someone you are comfortable with, and who is easily accessible to you. Odds are you won’t only have nursing questions and issues during business hours Monday through Friday, so find someone who welcomes your stressed texts and phone calls at 3am on a Sunday morning. They exist! And these are the ones who will help you reach your goals.

Supplements don’t always help with supply

With all three of my babies, I’ve had milk supply issues. Fortunately, my supply has increased with each baby and now I’ve finally gotten to the point where I am feeding my baby breast milk exclusively. But along the way, I’ve tried several products recommended to try to increase my supply. Here are some of my results:

Lactation Cookies: Yummy, but did nothing for me in terms of supply.
Mothers Milk Tea: I do think this helped me a bit, and I used it throughout most of the time I was exclusively pumping with my second child. It became habit – drink a cuppa as I pumpa. That said, it may have just been the additional fluid intake that was marginally helping with my supply.
Fenugreek: I took it religiously with my first two children, but am not a huge fan. You have to take 6-9 capsules a day (a few three times a day) which is the first inconvenience. I wouldn’t mind if it had worked, but I simply don’t think it did. Also, your sweat and urine will smell strongly of maple syrup as long as you’re taking it.
Milk Thistle: I also took this with both of my first two children, and didn’t notice much of a difference. I gave up and stopped taking it within a couple of weeks.
Drinkable Supplements: I have tried at least 4-5 drinkable products designed to increase nursing mothers’ milk production. I didn’t find that any of them made a noticeable difference.

Now, that’s not to say that these supplements don’t work. Studies show that they can or do. They just didn’t work for ME.

What DOES work for me is eating often, drinking a lot of water (I aim for at least eight glasses a day), and nursing and pumping often. Which brings me to my next point.

You will still have to pump

I was so excited at the prospect of putting away the pump with my third baby. After 10 months of pumping with my second, I was DONE and ready to simply nurse at the breast.

Alas, it wasn’t meant to be.

Much to my dismay, I learned that a successful breastfeeding relationship often includes pumping – at least for low suppliers like myself. So now, I am both nursing AND pumping.

The good news is that instead of pumping 10-12 times a day, I’m now pumping only 2-3 times a day. This is to increase my supply. So after the baby feeds, I will pump for an additional 15-20 minutes a few times a day to increase milk production. Other times I pump include times when the baby is sleeping and I don’t want to wake him to feed. Or if I am uncomfortably full in the night and need relief.

More good news is that it should help build a freezer stash, which means that someone else can feed the baby if you’re unable to.

But – let’s face it. Pumping is a PITA. Plastic parts, cleaning, storing milk, etc. And it only gets worse if you’re going back to work and won’t have the baby near you all the time.

Newborns eat OFTEN

In the beginning I was feeding every 30-60 minutes. Consistently. Which means that you basically have no time for anything OTHER than breastfeeding.

Even now, eight weeks in, I’m feeding every 1-2 hours at most. That is a lot of time spent breastfeeding. I track my feeds on a mobile baby app (Baby Connect – an excellent free app that tracks everything to do with baby) and am averaging close to three hours of breastfeeding daily at this point. This doesn’t include the additional time I spend pumping each day.

It’s basically a part time job. Much more than that in the very beginning.

I’m not complaining. Frequent feeds mean that your baby is doing his job and thriving. But it does mean that you have to become very deliberate about your schedule (or lack thereof) to be available for frequent feeds.

Feeds aren’t always as serene as they seem on TV

Turns out that babies have moods just like the rest of us. And that carries over into your nursing relationship.

Yes, there are times when the baby will feed peacefully, calmly, and you’ll be able to relax and just melt into the moment. But there are other times when your baby will be fussy, chomping and pulling at the nipple, while crying and fighting.

There are times when a feed will take 20 minutes and be easy-peasy. But there are also times when you will be feeding for over an hour only to find that your baby continues to remain unsatisfied, frustrating you both.

Sometimes your baby will allow you to easily guide him to the breast, gently releasing the latch once he is satiated. But at other times your baby will fight as you attempt to help her latch, and will pull off suddenly and painfully while clamping on your nipple when startled by a loud noise.

I’m confident that this gets better over time, as you and your baby learn each other’s cues and fall into a groove, but it’s always a possibility that either Mom or baby is having a bad day.

Lanolin allergies exist

Perhaps I’m in the minority, but I was shocked to find this out. After basically drowning my nipples in the stuff in my quest for pain relief, I was disappointed to not experience much relief at all – and instead simply be stuck with greasy, messy nipples. Even worse, my wounds weren’t healing and my nipples remained red, cracked, itchy, and swollen.

My lactation consultant took one look and diagnosed me with a lanolin allergy. Yep, I’m allergic to lanolin.

Turns out that lanolin comes from sheep’s wool, helping to make it waterproof. I also have an allergy to wool so I suppose I shouldn’t be surprised that lanolin causes the same reaction – if only I had known or researched its origins.

I quickly switched to the recommended Earth Mama Angel Baby Natural Nipple Butter (try saying that five times fast) and was amazed at how quickly the redness, itchiness, and swollen nipples healed. Not only that, but it was SO much easier to apply – a much lighter and smoother consistency that glides on and off. And no GMOs.

Even better, you can use regular old olive oil, which also contains some healing properties and is likely sitting around your kitchen already anyway.

So if the lanolin isn’t helping with healing, look into whether you may have an allergy and consider another product or just plain olive oil.

It is extremely satisfying

I expected to feel proud IF I could successfully breastfeed this time around, and I do. What I didn’t expect was how fulfilled it would make me feel. There is something deeply satisfying about knowing that you are feeding your child as nature intended. That you are responsible for his physical growth and weight gain. That your body brings her comfort when she is upset.

It’s instinctive.

There are moments in the middle of the night, when everyone else is sound asleep, that I want to cry gazing at my baby feeding so contentedly. When he finally releases in a milk-drunk haze, dozing over my shoulder as he is burped and then put back to bed.

There are expressions that only I will see. Sounds and coos that only I will hear. And baby eyes that only I will witness as they ease from anxiety to calm during a feed.

And these are the moments I live for. That make everything else worthwhile. These fleeting moments that will be gone too soon once he no longer will need me to nourish him.

So everything else – the pain, the inconvenience – I’ll take it. And cherish this time before it’s gone.

Interested in a breastfeeding update? Check out my new post, 10 More Things I’ve Learned About Breastfeeding At 6 Months Postpartum!